Do you still remember your New Year Resolutions? Here’s a simple idea that should help.
“Make your resolutions about what you will do daily and keep small goals to reach every day.”
With more details, here is Jake . . . . . .
My New Year’s Resolutions used to fail every time.
Then one year I read The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, and was quite taken by this line: “What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.”
Huh, I thought.
The next January, I made a resolution to “Run every day.” To exercise daily, I had to change my mindset. I couldn’t be too hard on myself — if there were only 10 minutes, then a 10 minute run had to be okay. In other words, I had to be a bit of a slacker.
Building a small daily habit was way easier than a big sometimes habit. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t like magic. I fell off the wagon several times, but each time I managed to get back on. Since the goal was doable, if I missed a day or two, I didn’t have to break the ice when I resumed. It worked, and the habit stuck!
Next, I tried a New Year’s Resolution for writing. Previously, I’d only bothered writing if I had at least 90 minutes of uninterrupted time (which is pretty rare). Using my new slacker method, I resolved to “Write every day, even just 10 minutes.”
Again, it was easier to stay in rhythm, and the habit stuck. (Although I had to get a little creative to stay focused.)
I even tried this approach with meditating, which always seemed like The Hardest Thing In The World. To make it a daily habit, I downgraded my expectations. I didn’t wake up early. I didn’t meditate for 60 minutes. I didn’t force myself to sit in silence on a zen pillow.
Instead (nerd alert!) I just used Headspace every day, on the bus or even while I was falling asleep. And I decided that even 10 minutes of meditation “counted.” The habit stuck.
Sometimes the magic doesn’t work. Sometimes I’ll keep the same resolution two or three years in a row before it sticks. (This year I’ll finally stretch my hamstrings!) Still, for me, getting even 50% of my resolutions to stick is pretty good.
So take it for what it’s worth. But if you’ve been frustrated with resolutions in the past, consider applying my Unscientific 5-Step Recipe:
On – 02 Jan, 2018 By Jake Knapp
I coach people through social-technological solutions with yoga wisdom to enjoy a wonderful life with their family and career. I spent 24 years in SE Asia, where I learned that powerful family relations help people to survive and thrive there, enjoying life. Also concerned about Rural economic-social Development empowering healthy families.